Geek culture. You hear these words, read them, see them, all over the place. And then the biggest sting comes. They try to tell you that “geek culture” and autistic culture are the same thing. No. Just. No. Rather than go on about what the word “geek” actually means (if you have not ever bitten the head off a live chicken in front of an audience, please stop telling people you are one, because you are not), I want to talk about something a little more aggravating.
In the Entertainment section of The Daily Beast, author Arthur Chu presents us with this article entitled Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds. It is a very sobering read. Now, the point from Arthur’s writings that is germaine to what I want to say here starts halfway through a paragraph. I want you to look at the following:
Or how it feels to be chased by a real-life Steve Urkel, being harassed, accosted, ambushed in public places, have your boyfriend “challenged” and having all rejection met with a cheerful “I’m wearing you down!”?
I know people who’ve been through that. And because life is not, in fact, a sitcom, it’s not the kind of thing that elicits a bemused eye roll followed by raucous laughter from the studio audience. It’s the kind of thing that induces pain, and fear.
This is a classic example of why I am angry that the media wants you, people out there, to think “autistic culture == geek culture”. Because Big Walking Stereotype Theory and Family Matters About A Complete Little Asshole are held up as “geek culture”, and that automatically makes “geek culture” incompatible with autistic culture on a fundamental level.
Much to the I presume dismay of my male parental unit, I have had very intimate and personal relations with members of the opposite sex in the past. One of whom, I might hasten to add, I have no trouble imagining kicking the arses of Chuck Norris and Bruce Lee simultaneously. Because that is her pervasive interest in life. That shot in The Transporter where Jason Statham’s titular character punches one man in front of him and kicks the other behind him whilst in the middle of a leap in the air? That is the kind of thing she enjoys doing for real.
She would not tolerate “I’m wearing you down”. If someone said that to her after she had said “fuck off og la meg være i fred”, she would probably kill them.
Now, admittedly, the circles I used to travel in are somewhat unusual. Not everyone ever has a chance to be among the kind of people who find it a turn-on to see a man throw a particularly aggravating and unable-to-take-no-for-an-answer normie in the path of moving traffic. But the manner in which normie media still finds it acceptable to portray people acting like this is disturbing.
Look, in real life, people who deserve to call themselves men learn a very different way of interacting with women. Kellie Shanygne Williams’ character never outright tells Jaleel White’s to fukk off and leave her alone. The show was, after all, a prime-time show from an era where True Blood would never get past the first round of talks with financiers. But every episode, just about, was the same tired old script. Walking stereotype harasses teenage girl. Walking stereotype never gets punched in the face by not-insubstantial father who also happens to be a police officer.
In real life, Steve Urkel’s behaviour to Laura Lee Winslow would have at best gotten Steve Urkel arrested and likely subjected to a court order. At worst, it would have gotten him killed. And here is a thing for you to contemplate at your leisure, “geek culture == autistic culture” assholes, if the woman I have described above were the woman Steve Urkel were harassing, that means a (“borderline”) autistic woman would have killed him.
This is one reason why I feel that it should be law, worldwide, that minority groups be allowed to arm themselves. Not every autistic woman is or desires to be an in-extremis version of Cynthia Rothrock. But every autistic woman, hell, every woman in general, deserves the ability to make the Steve Urkels of this world realise that wearing them down is not going to wear them down to obedient love slave, but rather wear them down to “I meant it when I said fukk off or I will kill you”.
There are examples of men who fit perfectly with autistic culture who win women not by “wearing them down”, but by proving that as men to contribute DNA to future examples of the Human species, one could do a hell of a lot worse. Michael Fassbender’s performances in X-Men: First Class and X-Men: Days Of Future Past are good examples.
Even as a boy in his teens, “I’m wearing you down”, catchphrased as if it is something “coooooool” to say to a woman who is sick of the sight of you, made me want to throw things at the television. I admit I am taking a very male and self-centric perspective here, but if a woman who looked like a young Jane Badler came into the same street as me and was yelling that the neandrathal is running scared, my fellow mutants whilst she was fling a car at Tony AbbottAndCostello through will alone, I would line up to lick the dog shit from her heel.
You get how this works, “geek culture” pushers? Your “geek culture” figures of sympathy or relation have no features that make me want to be them or be in their company. Their attitudes to other people make them just as bad, if not worse, as the “worst of Humanity” that Wolverine describes as being left in charge. Because they are spoiled brats who think that their existence means they are automatically entitled to any Human of the opposite sex that they want.
In fact, remember those bully figures from sitcoms of the 1970s and 1980s, who expected to be able to snap their fingers and have a female figure drift like a zombie toward them? That is basically Steve Urkel in reverse. Congratulations, “geek culture == autistic culture” assholes. You basically shove a thug into us.
Okay, getting back to the point, as you have no doubt deduced from all of this, I am avidly a non-fan of so-called “geek culture”. So let us summarise. Do I hate “geek culture” on its own (lack of) merits? You betchya. Even if assholes who have a monkeysphere that is smaller than Tony AbbottAndCostello’s dick did not want us to believe that my culture and “geek culture” are the same thing, geek culture is still basically nothing more than the new equivalent of the 1980s pop culture. Saccharine, sickly, and repulsive to the eye.
My culture is but one aspect of autistic culture. Perhaps it is a small one, perhaps even a big one. But the salient point here is that it is autistic culture, a part thereof, and one that the media will not admit to the existence of.
“Geek culture” is celebrating rapists and people who do not respect the personal spaces of others, especially when those others happen to be female. Which is one more reason why I find attempts to conflate it with autistic culture, to push it in people’s faces and say “this is the same thing”, to be offensive.